Amidst the whirlwind of wedding preparations going through my mind day in day out, i chanced upon a writing online that made me stop and think.
It's a great read and i hope you like it too :)
As I think back on the hundred-plus weddings I've photographed, I want to emphasize this:
Every wedding is perfect.
I love a good party.
I love a bride in the most elaborate, fancy, princess-y dress you've ever dreamed of.
I love custom chuppahs and embroidered aisle runners and matchy-matchy bridesmaids dresses.
I love to photograph flowers and shoes.
But you know why I REALLY do what I do?
To photograph your parents, who will hold hands and cry on the first
row of the chapel. To photograph your sister dancing with that boy she
will marry in three years. To photograph those kids who will grow up so,
so quickly. To photograph your grandfather, who will pass away next
spring. To photograph your first kiss as a married couple, your best
friend busting out her signature dance moves, the flower girl asleep
under a table, and maybe even your ex looking pretty wistful as he hugs
you a little too long in the receiving line.
You already know: your cake will disappear in less than an hour, your
flowers will wilt before the ceremony ends, and that uncomfortable tux
will go back to the rental place in the morning. But those photos...
they're gonna be there forever. You'll have them when your own kids are
born, when you have the biggest fight ever with your partner and need to
be reminded of how much you really love each other, when your parents
pass away and you realize the last time you danced with them was at your
wedding...
So, nothing against the wedding magazines and blogs and their
endless, passionate quest for "perfect" detail shots. PLEASE: throw the
party of your lives with every. single. detail. EXACTLY as you dreamed
it would be.
But my job -- MY job -- is to see past all that. My job is to give
you photos that will remind you why you had that damn expensive party in
the first place.
If you're planning your wedding right now, please just close the
magazine. Log out of Pinterest. And look at the person you want to grow
old with. Remind yourself of why you're doing this. And really CELEBRATE
when that day comes. Don't stress about your shoes or your cake or your
flowers. Don't stress about anything. When it's all over, you will be
married, and surrounded by the people who know you and love you most in
the whole wide world.
I promise: that is the Perfect Wedding.